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Post by CharismaticReaper99 on May 29, 2017 18:25:20 GMT -5
I've been thinking about it lately, I had a terrible childhood, and my parents beat, yelled, and made fun of me. I suffer from super low self-esteem because of this. I don't make this thread to make y'all feel sorry for me, I just wanted to know because I can't find info on Google and my cousin's friend may be abusing his kid.
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Post by dahltron on May 29, 2017 18:31:36 GMT -5
You should talk to a lawyer about that. R/legaladvice on reddit is a good place to start.
Awesome that you want to do something about it though
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Post by amidf on May 29, 2017 18:32:12 GMT -5
There are answers to that question which may differ from a legal or moral standpoint. Everyone likely has an opinion, but probably what the law says matters most when the situation is beyond your control. Why don't you start here? Even if you don't live in the US, it could give you some rough idea. www.childhelp.org/hotline/-Amid |
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2017 18:32:29 GMT -5
I would say they were abusive. I would definately say they did not treat you with the love every child deserves from their parents. I assume you are caught in a position of feeling painted and biased in one direction, yet thinking there's a problem to that needs to be addressed, and not sure what is really clear. I can imagine that could be confusing. What is your cousin doing to his child?
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Post by Dredd77 on May 29, 2017 18:35:30 GMT -5
Child abuse comes in many forms. Some of these are easy to classify, like sexual abuse. Physical abuse can be a grey area, because corporal punishment is seen by many to be a legitimate form of child discipline, but as a general rule of thumb anything that leaves a mark on the bottom, or anything targeting different parts of the body can potentially be construed as physical abuse.
The hardest to quantify, but no less harmful, is emotional abuse. Here a parent undermines a sense of worth and self in a child by disparaging, insulting, and otherwise chiseling away at self-esteem.
THis is a very valid question, and kudos to you for seeking answers.
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Post by dahltron on May 29, 2017 18:35:58 GMT -5
Awesome that you want to do something about it though!
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Post by CharismaticReaper99 on May 29, 2017 19:52:00 GMT -5
I would say they were abusive. I would definately say they did not treat you with the love every child deserves from their parents. I assume you are caught in a position of feeling painted and biased in one direction, yet thinking there's a problem to that needs to be addressed, and not sure what is really clear. I can imagine that could be confusing. What is your cousin doing to his child? He goes to school from 7-3, and his parents lock him in his room till dinner, where I can hear the yelling and crying (I live 2 blocks away), also, my cousin's friend is abusing the kid, not my cousin. |
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Post by CharismaticReaper99 on May 29, 2017 19:52:50 GMT -5
Thank you all so much!
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Post by CharismaticReaper99 on May 29, 2017 19:56:00 GMT -5
Child abuse comes in many forms. Some of these are easy to classify, like sexual abuse. Physical abuse can be a grey area, because corporal punishment is seen by many to be a legitimate form of child discipline, but as a general rule of thumb anything that leaves a mark on the bottom, or anything targeting different parts of the body can potentially be construed as physical abuse. The hardest to quantify, but no less harmful, is emotional abuse. Here a parent undermines a sense of worth and self in a child by disparaging, insulting, and otherwise chiseling away at self-esteem. THis is a very valid question, and kudos to you for seeking answers. I believe that the father is physically abusing (Constantly beats him with a Cat O' Nine Tails), Emotionally abusing (My cousin said that they keep telling him that he isn't good enough, he's worthless, stuff like that), not sexually abused though (to my knowledge). Really sucks that this stuff happens, what drives people to do these things? I guess the (near) absolute power can hijack some people's minds. |
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2017 21:16:52 GMT -5
I would say they were abusive. I would definately say they did not treat you with the love every child deserves from their parents. I assume you are caught in a position of feeling painted and biased in one direction, yet thinking there's a problem to that needs to be addressed, and not sure what is really clear. I can imagine that could be confusing. What is your cousin doing to his child? He goes to school from 7-3, and his parents lock him in his room till dinner, where I can hear the yelling and crying (I live 2 blocks away), also, my cousin's friend is abusing the kid, not my cousin. Even if you removed the additional info that came after this post I am responding to, I would call that abuse. Its basically imprisonment. Add the other stuff and its way beyond. Cops and child /social services need to check this out. This is the kind of thing where when someone doesn't act the kid can end up dead. All it takes for evil to win, is for a good man to sit by and do nothing. |
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Post by Dredd77 on May 29, 2017 21:51:40 GMT -5
If you can hear it two blocks away, then call the police.
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Post by piginapoke on May 29, 2017 23:05:35 GMT -5
Every day, it shall get worse. Do not dwell on the matter and call the police. You can follow it anonymously if you feel shy. Maybe there are blue numbers for child agencies in your area that you can call?
Act and you might save a child.
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Post by Why? on May 29, 2017 23:21:55 GMT -5
Please save the child, I beg of you.
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Post by CharismaticReaper99 on May 30, 2017 6:12:26 GMT -5
If you can hear it two blocks away, then call the police. I did last night, the kid's being given possession to his grandmother. He's safe. |
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Post by piginapoke on May 30, 2017 10:43:01 GMT -5
If you can hear it two blocks away, then call the police. I did last night, the kid's being given possession to his grandmother. He's safe. You are a hero. You will not get a monument, you will not get a medal but you might (or might not) get some peace of mind. Well done. And your cousin's friend is a numpty that should not be allowed to breed any more, |
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Post by CharismaticReaper99 on May 30, 2017 15:43:56 GMT -5
I did last night, the kid's being given possession to his grandmother. He's safe. You are a hero. You will not get a monument, you will not get a medal but you might (or might not) get some peace of mind. Well done. And your cousin's friend is a numpty that should not be allowed to breed any more, Thanks you  . This reduced me to tears, as this struck a little close to home, when I was abused, my uncle took possession of me, and what you said is something pretty similar to what the police said  . |
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Post by moody on May 30, 2017 22:14:20 GMT -5
This seems to have been resolved surprisingly quickly.
I hope it continues to be good news. These things have a habit of festering.
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Post by gr3ygh05t on May 30, 2017 22:27:43 GMT -5
It's nice to hear stuff like this. I myself had to call on CPS and APS on patient's family on a few occasions and it is generally a messy affair. I don't want to separate families but sometimes it is for their own good.
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Post by CharismaticReaper99 on May 31, 2017 6:44:54 GMT -5
This seems to have been resolved surprisingly quickly. I hope it continues to be good news. These things have a habit of festering. There is still some legal stuff being discussed in court, so it's not over yet. |
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Post by intruder1 on Jun 2, 2017 4:47:59 GMT -5
This seems to have been resolved surprisingly quickly. I hope it continues to be good news. These things have a habit of festering. There is still some legal stuff being discussed in court, so it's not over yet. Child abuse cases involving CPS typically take months or even years to fully settle. You did a good thing, too many people just stick their heads in the sand and say "it's none of my business". |
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Post by ×Carliex on Jun 3, 2017 21:27:56 GMT -5
Hope the kid is ok. It sounds like the parents aren't coping and probably shouldnt have been allowed to breed, but that's another subject.
For anyone dealing with a rubbish childhood, I thoroughly recommend psychotherapy.
The patient talks about their life and problems as they are now and the therapist relates issues back to childhood experiences. They talk through events and help you make sense of them from a psychological and behavioural point of view. You'll learn a lot about psychology in the process, which gives us an objective slant on events, making them easier to deal with.
It can be a very difficult process to stomach, and initially a person may fall to pieces emotionally. But afterwards... the memories fade and the bad feelings with them.
Or drugs. Lots of drugs.
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Post by ×Carliex on Jun 3, 2017 21:35:50 GMT -5
And to answer the question of "what is child abuse", I would guess it is anything that a child finds damaging to them, physically or psychologically, that is deliberately inflicted, or knowingly allowed to happen.
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Post by Strayed on Jun 3, 2017 21:39:48 GMT -5
You should talk to a lawyer about that. R/legaladvice on reddit is a good place to start. Awesome that you want to do something about it though r/legaladvice is full of wannabe lawyers and the actual lawyers/law-students are indistinguishable from the rest. You should always go to an actual real life lawyer for legal advice. To OP, if you are genuinely worried, please contact child services or your country's similar organization. Too many abused children have not been saved because adults hesitated on whether to call child services or not. The only thing necessary for evil to thrive is the inaction of good men.Edit: Just noticed that the matter has been resolved already. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2017 23:39:21 GMT -5
If you can hear it two blocks away, then call the police. I did last night, the kid's being given possession to his grandmother. He's safe. The fact that he was removed from the home is a big thing. You did well. You are a good man, you got up, and did something. You made sure he is safe. |
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